Where would she fit?

After the excitement yesterday, today I have been thinking more about a comment left on yesterday's post: "...and this begs the question, how will the girlfriend fit into your D/s dynamic (ideally)?" (Thanks to persephone)

The very night that Sean first brought up the topic of having a girlfriend for us to share, he asked whether I'd prefer a dominant girlfriend or one who would also be subordinate to him. The answer was easy - I'd want her to be in my position too. To me, it feels completely unnatural for a woman to be dominating. This goes completely against my every day interactions with most women - I surround myself with dominating people, men and women alike. But I always wonder if, deep down, the dominating women really just want to give up the control. [There is one exception, something I'll go into another time, which is when a woman has the Princess Complex. But that's for another day.]

So I think I'd be much happier if she was submissive, ideally willing to give up control and wanting to be pleasing... just like me really. This doesn't mean that she can't have problems with what she wants to do - I have problems too. I'd just want her to be willing to try to solve them. I'd want her to be fulfilled by acts of submission and service. I guess I'd want her to have the same mind set as me - open and honest, willing to try things out but also not afraid to say if something really isn't working for her.

In an ideal world, she'd be able to move in with us and she'd share my house-hold chores and our bed. Perhaps she'd be on my University course; that way we'd be able to support each other through our studies, and we'd also have the same timetable. That'd mean that we'd be able to divide every thing up really well between us when it came to looking after the house. That'd also mean that things like cooking would be quicker - we'd be home at the same time and able to get dinner on the table when Sean walks through the door. Part of me wonders if all that time together would be a good thing; but then if I got on with her as well as I get on with Sean, it'd be no problem at all - we are talking about the ideal situation, after all.

It would mean that Sean would have an extra slave to discipline... but I think he'd enjoy it more than anything. Two reddened bums are better than one, don't you think? I also think there'd be some more order to it all - as she'd be able to tell Sean when I've been bad (and vice versa). It'd sort of make it more official. And as for the sex side of things... In an ideal world there'd be very little jealousy - only the kind that makes things more interesting and intense. I think if Sean spied a stolen kiss between me and our girlfriend he'd be rather hot under the collar for the rest of the day. There'd be that extra zing to our relationship. And of course, that relationship would be three ways instead of two. That'd mean that he would be able to have sex with her just like how he does with me. Again, in an ideal world, it'd turn me on. As I think I referred to when talking about slaves, it's best to leave a sex slave wanting more; and having two slaves would allow Sean to do that more effectively.

So far, all of this sounds great. We just need to be weary of the green eyed monster, as not everything works as it does in the ideal world. We still have no idea of how to go about finding someone we both like who is both into us and willing to try a little D/s. This is all fun to talk about, but in the real world it's probably going to take at least a few months before we find someone to share our relationship with - and even then there may be problems... we have, for example, never slept with any one else (either as a couple or separately), we are both still rather young too.

But in theory, this is most definitely something I'd love to try.

Excitement

Last Saturday, Sean and I went to the library with some of his friends to catch up on some work. The work at Uni is really piling up now, and that's the main reason I haven't been posting so frequently folks. I do try, and I think Sean wants me to be more frequent now.

So anyway, there we were waiting for one of Sean's female friends to come back and join the group when Sean turns to me and tells me how much he likes her ass. The statement didn't really surprise me at all. In fact, it gave me a chance to voice my opinion of her - I like her a lot. I love how she looks and how she is around me (all smiles and compliments). The very act of Sean commenting on her allowed me to realise for myself how much I like her... and once I had realised that I could go on and think some rather naughty thoughts about her. She occupied my mind for the rest of the day, both when she was around me and later when we all went our separate ways.

A while ago, Sean and I were talking about our future together. The discussion last week about marriage got us thinking more about the potential morbid things that could happen. Along with the "I'd want you to be happy if anything happened to me" talks, we also mused over what may happen if Sean has to go and work in America for a while after he graduates. I'd still have a year at uni to go. We've been in a long distance relationship before, but that time it was 60 miles. That's nothing compared to the 5,000 plus miles we'd have to endure. We were joking about how he'd be able to control my PC over the Internet, and also about a new product he's recently spied: A vibrator that can be remotely controlled over the Internet. Scary stuff. He'd also have full access to a webcam set up on my machine so he could spy on me whenever he wanted. I joked that he'd be able to "pop in" to see which girl I'd be sleeping with that week... and as I was laughing he said, "well actually..."

It turns out that he's been thinking of me being with another girl for some time, and while he'd be happy for me to have a girlfriend if something happened that prevented us from being together, I've also found out that his previous uncertainty about me being with a girl in his presence has waned. To the extent that last night, when I was lying on his chest, he said, "I think we should get a girlfriend". My heart leaped! I couldn't believe it! He was most certainly being sincere, and now all day today I've had my eye on all the hotties I saw around me.

If we're going to get a girlfriend, there's going to have to be some changes around here. Nothing major, just all the usual things that need to be changed when someone gets back "in the game". I want to tidy up the house (We're not dirty people, but we are messy. There's laundry absolutely everywhere!), and I need to learn to shave regularly. Just little things like that.

Oooo I'm all excited! Can you tell?!